How to Manage Your Anger in Parenting

Let's talk about something that's all too familiar for many of us yet not very talked about – anger. Parenthood comes with its fair share of challenges, and it's normal to feel frustrated or overwhelmed from time to time. But how do we keep our cool when the pressure is on?

First things first, it's okay to feel angry. Parenting can be tough, and it's natural to experience a range of emotions, including anger. Instead of suppressing or denying your feelings, acknowledge them and give yourself permission to feel whatever comes up.

When you feel anger rising, take a moment to pause and breathe. Deep breaths can help calm your nervous system and give you the clarity you need to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.

Find healthy outlets for your anger. Whether it's going for a walk, journaling, talking to a friend, or hitting a pillow or punching bag, find ways to release pent-up emotions in a constructive manner.

Practice empathy and understanding toward yourself and your child. Remember that everyone has bad days, and it's okay to make mistakes. Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you would offer to a friend in a similar situation.

Set realistic expectations for yourself and your child. Recognize that parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it's okay to not have all the answers. Give yourself permission to learn and grow along the way.

Seek support when you need it. Whether it's reaching out to a trusted friend, joining a parenting support group, or seeking professional help, don't hesitate to ask for support when you're struggling with anger or other difficult emotions.

And finally, remember that you're not alone. Parenting can feel isolating at times, but there are resources and support systems available to help you navigate the challenges. If you're struggling to manage anger in your parenting journey, my  "How to Stop Yelling" workshop can help. I talk about why we get angry and ways to help both in the moment and overall. You can get it here.

So, let's work together to keep our cool and parent with love and compassion. You've got this!